better than before betrayal
This podcast is for women who have experienced betrayal from a husband's pornography use, sexually compulsive behaviors, or other forms of infidelity. I am a member of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-Day Saints and a Life Coach certified through The Life Coach School. Join me as I share my experience of growth and healing and teach the tools and concepts to help you take responsibility for your own happiness, find peace, confidence, and become a stronger you. Come with me and let me show you how to have a life that is better than before betrayal.
Episodes
124 episodes
Broken-replay
I've been hearing 2 songs a lot lately about being broken. It has turned my thoughts to this episode originally published a year ago. What do you think about the idea of being broken? Give this a listen and hear some of my thoughts.
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Season 3
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Episode 124
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15:55
Expanding our emotional vocabulary
In this episode I share a few ideas on how to exoand our emotional vocabulary. This work will bring growth and connection. It is worth doing!
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Season 3
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Episode 123
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15:31
What ELSE a human brain needs
This episode piggybacks on last week's, so be sure to listen to that one first. I will complete the list of what a human brain needs. It doesn't REALLY NEED of these things. We can live without them,...many people do. We may have (probably have...
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Season 3
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Episode 122
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13:04
What a Human Brain Needs
Our human brain has a job to do. It looks for danger. It Looks for pleasure. It tries to do things the easy way. We need skills to help our lower brain. We need skills to navigate our human experience. In this episode I illustrate how I used sk...
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Season 3
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Episode 121
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19:25
Anticipation not Expectation-replay
This episode originally aired December 2023. I invite you to consider anticipating rather than expecting. This is a small shift in our thinking that can have a great impact in our lives. Try it out and see what you think.
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Season 3
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Episode 120
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14:23
What to do with "I don't like being around them" replay
Here is a replay of an earlier episode that I think is a great example of strengthen our sense of self.
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Season 3
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Episode 119
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16:00
I don't make other people's actions mean anything about me
This episode aired earlier (number 5) as "I don't hang my emotions on others". This is one of the skills that I practice to make my life better now. It is an important skill and a challenging one. And it is not one that we will "arrive" at. It ...
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Season 3
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Episode 118
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23:19
Valentine's Day replay
This is a replay of last year's Valentine's Day episode. I share some ideas on how you can approach this holiday intentionally and authentically. Do what works for you.
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Season 3
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Episode 117
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19:05
Zero Responsibility
The work we do here in better than before betrayal is the work of healing and growth. We take responsibility for what is ours and leave the rest to others. What's yours is yours, what's theirs is theirs. We have zero responsibility for other pe...
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Season 3
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Episode 116
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13:36
Your Sense of Self (Part 3)
In this episode learn practices to strengthen your sense of self. This is vital work for your healing and creating a life you love.
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Season 3
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Episode 115
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17:47
Your Sense of Self (Part 2)
In this episode I will share some examples from my life. You get to judge whether I was coming from a strong or weak sense of self. I help this helps you as you look at your own life experiences and see where your sense of self was at times.
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Season 3
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Episode 114
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19:31
Your Sense of Self Part 1
In this episode I will define Sense of Self. What is a solid, strong sense of self? What is a weak or reflective sense of self? Looking at where we are and were we have been can be very helpful to our healing. Strengthening our sense of s...
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Season 3
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Episode 113
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19:34
Balance in Life isn't a Thing-replay
I'm sending out this replay episode hoping it will help you intentionally choose how you want to think about balance in life in reference to the beginning of a new year and goals or New Year's resolutions you might have set. Make 2025 a great y...
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Season 3
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Episode 112
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32:09
Do You Still Love Him?
Do you still love your husband? This is a short message with an invitation to consider your feelings and the power you have to choose intentionally what you want to focus on. What do you want to feel?
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Season 2
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Episode 111
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12:23
Recovering from the Trap of Pornography
In this episode I share the second part of Dallin H Oaks article. I focus on what is needed for recovery.
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Season 2
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Episode 110
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27:54
Levels of Pornography Involvment
In this episode I share information found in a great article by Dallin H Oaks entitled Recovering From the Trap of Pornography". It describes the different levels of involvement. I have found this article to be very helpful in understanding por...
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Season 2
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Episode 109
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16:55
There Are Angels With Us replay
I have been loving the Light the World Campaign this year as we consider angels. There are angels with us, earthly and from the other side of the veil. And we can be angels in other peoples lives. Take times to consider the angels that have bee...
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Season 2
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Episode 108
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18:47
Weakness and Weaknesses replay
I didn't plan to republish this episode until I was studying Ether 12. God gives us weakness. In this episode, I share my thoughts about the difference between weakness and weaknesses. Listen in and see if you agree with this idea. And as alway...
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Season 2
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Episode 107
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14:14
Happy Thanksgiving...unless it's not
Here we are at the holiday season again. Holidays can be especially challenging for us when we are dealing with betrayal. This episode is a replay from last year. It has some really good stuff to help you navigate the season.
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Season 2
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Episode 106
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17:51
What the Guys are saying about slips and relapses
In this episode I share some of the things my husband's friends in recovery say.
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Season 2
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Episode 105
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17:29
The Best Is Yet To Come
It is hard to find peace and hope in betrayal. I want you to know that the best IS yet to come.
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Season 2
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Episode 104
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13:03
A slip, a relapse, a setback...which is it?
How do you define a slip, a relapse or a setback? Do they mean the same thing to you? Do they mean the same thing to your husband? Are you on the same page? That's what this episode is about.
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Season 2
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Episode 103
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18:02
Bottom Lines
In this episode I will teach you about bottom lines. They are crucial to an addicts recovery. It can be very helpful for you to understand them in order for you to be a support to them.
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Season 2
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Episode 102
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13:28
Your Threshold
Do you know what your threshold is? Your line in the sand that can't be crossed? The thing that is a deal breaker? In this episode I will share my thoughts about why you may or may not want to name your threshold.
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Season 2
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Episode 101
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18:05
The ways my life is better than before betrayal
In this episode I do a review of the ways my life is better than before betrayal. It is a quick review of my first podcast episodes. Listen in and then go back and do a deeper dive on the full episodes of the ways YOU want to change.
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Season 2
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Episode 100
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23:38