better than before betrayal
This podcast is for women who have experienced betrayal from a husband's pornography use, sexually compulsive behaviors, or other forms of infidelity. I am a member of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-Day Saints and a Life Coach certified through The Life Coach School. Join me as I share my experience of growth and healing and teach the tools and concepts to help you take responsibility for your own happiness, find peace, confidence, and become a stronger you. Come with me and let me show you how to have a life that is better than before betrayal.
Episodes
103 episodes
A slip, a relapse, a setback...which is it?
How do you define a slip, a relapse or a setback? Do they mean the same thing to you? Do they mean the same thing to your husband? Are you on the same page? That's what this episode is about.
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Season 2
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Episode 103
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18:02
Bottom Lines
In this episode I will teach you about bottom lines. They are crucial to an addicts recovery. It can be very helpful for you to understand them in order for you to be a support to them.
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Season 2
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Episode 102
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13:28
Your Threshold
Do you know what your threshold is? Your line in the sand that can't be crossed? The thing that is a deal breaker? In this episode I will share my thoughts about why you may or may not want to name your threshold.
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Season 2
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Episode 101
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18:05
The ways my life is better than before betrayal
In this episode I do a review of the ways my life is better than before betrayal. It is a quick review of my first podcast episodes. Listen in and then go back and do a deeper dive on the full episodes of the ways YOU want to change.
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Season 2
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Episode 100
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23:38
You can not convince your mind of something your heart doesn't feel
You can not convince your mind of something your heart doesn't feel. In this episode, I will share my thoughts about this true sentence. I will show how it fits in the coaching Model. I will invite you to discover Truth.
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Season 2
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Episode 99
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15:20
I want my husband to do what he wants
What comes up for you when I say, "I want my husband to do what he wants"? Do you want your husband to do what he wants? Does that idea bring fear? In this episode I will explain why I want this. Maybe you will decide you want this too.
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Season 2
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Episode 98
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10:41
Thought: This Shouldn't Have Happened
Have you ever thought, "This shouldn't have happened?" This is not a useful thought. It can actually be hurtful. It can keep you stuck. Even if it feels true, you may not want to hold on to it. Listen in to find out why.
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Season 2
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Episode 97
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14:33
Your Husband is Not the Enemy
Have you thought that your husband was the enemy? This is common with betrayal. How can someone hurt you so deeply not be your enemy? In this episode I will invite you to consider how this belief keeps you stuck. I invite you acknowledge who th...
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Season 2
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Episode 96
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19:03
You Were Prepared For This
You were prepared for this trial? Did you know this? Do you see it? In this episode I will invite you to consider how you were prepared. We will talk about how realizing that this is true can strengthen you.
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Season 2
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Episode 95
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16:20
Introvert or Extrovert
Are you an introvert or an extrovert. Or are you an ambivert or omnivert? In this episode I will talk about these different personality traits and why it can be helpful to know what you are and what those around you are.
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Season 2
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Episode 94
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18:30
Alone? or Lonely?
Are you Alone? or Lonely? In this episode I will talk about the differences and invite you to consider your experience. I'll invite you to decide what you want to do about it, if anything.
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Season 2
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Episode 93
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13:26
The Zeigarnik Effect
The Zegarnik Effect is our brains tendency to return its attention to unresolved problems. We can use this to benefit our lives. Listen to this episode to find out how.
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Season 2
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Episode 92
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10:49
One Up and One Down in Relationships
One upping and one downing can damage our relationships. We all do it. When we are willing to look at ourselves and clean this up, we can create more intimate relationships.
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Season 2
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Episode 91
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20:19
How To Not Be Triggered
In this episode I will teach you how to manage triggers so that they will not have power over you. This is a next level healing skill. You may not be ready for it yet. Please Know that I am not minimizing the pain of triggers! I am not! I offer...
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Season 2
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Episode 90
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25:35
Myth: He Can Read and Pray His Addictions Away
Have you heard the idea that your husband can read and pray his addictions away? In this episode I will share MY thoughts on this. I will share why I don't think it is true, how this idea can be harmful, AND I will tell you HOW it CAN be true.
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Season 2
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Episode 89
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18:32
The Power of THESE Words
Words are powerful. In this episode I invite you to make a small change. I talk about little words that have a big impact. If you choose, you can make a big change with the little words you use.
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Season 2
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Episode 88
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18:11
All or Nothing Thinking
Do you find yourself going to all or nothing thinking? This habit can cause you pain and keep you stuck. You can free yourself from the all or nothing thinking trap. In this episode I will share a few ideas of how to do it.
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Season 2
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Episode 87
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19:50
The Johari Window
In this episode I am describing and explaining the Johari Window. It is a great tool for self introspection, awareness, and connection.
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Season 2
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Episode 86
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22:53
Building Self Trust
Self Trust is SO important to a happy life. What is Self Trust. How is your level of self trust? Would you like to improve it? Listen in this episode for thoughts and ideas.
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Season 2
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Episode 85
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16:52
Support Groups: For or Against
Are you For or Against group support meetings? What has been your experience? Have you heard people claim that group support meetings are not helpful? I have and in this episode I'm going to share my thoughts about this.
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Season 2
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Episode 84
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13:30
Someone To Talk To
This struggle of a spouse's unwanted sexual behaviors is so isolating. All struggles are! Today I have a super short message about a super important aspect of your healing: Having someone to talk to.
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Season 2
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Episode 83
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8:07
Victim vs Victim Mindset
Do you know the difference between Victim and Victim Mindset? One is acknowledging your experience, the other will keep you stuck. They are both a choice. Which choice do you want to make?
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Season 2
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Episode 82
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10:32
Bridge Thoughts
Sometimes we wish we could just choose a new thought. And sometimes we can. Not usually though. In this episode I will teach you about bridge thoughts and ladder thoughts. These tools can get your thought from where it is now to where you want ...
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Season 2
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Episode 81
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12:52
Pity Party
We have all thrown a pity party for oursevles because we are human and it is so easy for our brains to go there. However, we don't have to get stuck there.
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Season 2
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Episode 80
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14:49
THOUGHT: "I'm doing more work on our marriage than he is"
Have you ever had this thought? Do you have it now? In this episode I will share my experience with this thought and show you the power it has. I will point out the result this thought brings. Then you get to decide if you want to hold on to th...
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Season 2
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Episode 79
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18:34